This week I did a Learning Challenge focused empathy. I learned that there are four qualities of empathy: 1) perspective taking, 2) the ability to take the perspective of another person, 3) staying out of judgment, 4) recognizing emotions in others and communicating.
Brene says she likes to think of empathy as a dark hole where someone finds themselves when they are stuck or overwhelmed, and then someone else comes down and says they know what it's like down there and you're not alone. I think that is a great analogy.
When someone opens up to you, the best thing you can do is just listen and not offer advice or sympathetic responses. Offering advice and sympathetic responses is the easy way to go, but listening and choosing to remember a time when you were in a similar spot is difficult and can leave you just as vulnerable.
This week I chose to try out the Google Timer. I had never heard of this before, and it is very easy to set up.
Currently, my time management for school work is mostly about finishing an assignment or a certain section of it before I take a break. Sometimes I get off track when I take a break and it lasts longer than I had planned. This technique is a great way for me to remember to get back to work.
Here's a fun picture for those that struggle with time management:
The subject of stress and how I deal with it is very interesting to me. I find that I can become paralyzed by large amounts of stress, which negatively affects my academic performance. I have always been led to believe that stress is damaging to our health, but after reading this article and watching the video I came to realize that stress can be used as a tool to rise to a challenge.
It is believed that just changing your mindset about stress can help you to live a longer, more fulfilling life. People that view stress as bad for their health showed a much higher risk of dying than people that viewed health as a tool.
I have dealt with various levels of stress throughout my time in the Army and through sports, but the times that I overcame the negative effects of it were when I felt confident in my abilities to address the situation. I was able to harness the rush of adrenaline and make clear headed choices and actions. The countless hours of preparation gave me confidence.
For some reason, harnessing stress in the world of academia is not as easy for me. I know I spend a lot of time studying, but every now and then I freeze up due to anxiety. This article and video gave me some great advice on how to think about my responses to stress when I feel the negative effects consuming me.
By changing my mindset about stress, I believe that I can more effectively deal with my anxiety and perform at my best, even in the most stressful situation. I highly recommend reading this article and watching the video. Below I have embedded the video. Check it out!
This week I chose to watch The Mahabharata by Peter Brooks. I began watching this film at the start of the war. The links to this film are not accurate, but I kept thinking it may have just been a change up from the original story. I turned out to be wrong, so I watched the second half instead of the first half. Either way, I am pretty familiar with the Mahabharata from the previous readings.
My favorite part of the Mahabharata actually happens to be the war, so this was a welcome surprise. I was thinking the whole time about a story that would involve the loss of someone close and the effects that it would have on someone. Arjuna turns is infuriated and the loss of his son motivates him to carry on with the war, but Drona is just told that his son has died and he is unable to go on with life, let alone the war. Bhima also loses his son in the war and he grieves for a time, but then it just shows him going on like nothing happened. I suppose people grieve in different ways.
I also really like the character Ghatotkacha, who was Bhima's half-rakshasa son. Ghatotkacha has many powers and that make him a huge threat to Karna and his side of the war. Ghatotkacha would have won the war if Karna hadn't been forced to use his invincible dart that was given to him by Indra. I think I would like to write a whole story just about him.
